Defining Being in a world of Doing

written for sleekevents.co.uk

I’m curious, what does BEING mean to you?

We generally say “#Iam” to define a part of ourselves: our name, our job, our background, etc. This is how society defines “#Being”… and it is so much more than that!

We live in a world where #Doing has taken over Being; where Doing is the primary concern of our everyday existence. We live in TO-DO lists, and we get trapped into “The Spinning Wheel of Doing”. The result is often what I call “The Claustro-Doing” which is nothing more than an increased #anxiety due to over doing.

Have you ever wondered why we do so much? Have you ever wondered why we tend to put so much on our plates that we drawn into doing and clog up our mind, soul and spirit?

Doing can easily become an addiction and it works as a sort of patch so that we do not have to deal with our #emotions, with our thoughts and with our subconscious.

Can we really stop doing? Of course not! And there is no need to. The idea here is to find a functional way to Doing without forgetting your Being.

Are you ready to step into the world knowing how to BE YOU rather than being a doing machine?

1. Become aware of your language

How do you speak to yourself? How many times a day do you tell yourself “I have to”? And what would it take to replace it with “I choose to”? The way you talk to yourself creates the imprint of the way you treat yourself and how much you value self respect. Would you be ok to start treating you with #kindness and #compassion? Talk to yourself as you would have wanted your inner child to be talked to.

2. Be You as soon as you wake up

What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you look at your phone? Have a coffee? Listen to the news?

Would it be ok to pause the doing and allow yourself to just be for a minute? Before you get up, take 3 big breaths to really feel your presence and wake up all of your muscles and organs. Get up, gently wash your face, smile at yourself and make the following statement: “I allow myself to be me and respect me today”.

When you step into the shower, would it be ok to use it as a cleansing ritual where you actually clear out from your #body, #mind and #soul anything that is no longer necessary; anything that you no longer need to hold on to; any emotion that is ready to be released. I trust this is something that can easily be integrated into your daily life. And if you rather shower at night, use this cleansing ritual before going to bed.

3. Be mindful of what you read and listen to

Reading or listening to dreadful news early in the morning can be pretty unsettling for the #subconscious. If you can, choose to fill yourself up with good vibrations, comforting words and good intentions for the day. Whether it is vibrational music, your favourite podcast, a #meditation or your favourite audiobook, remember that the morning literally sets your foundations for the day!

4. Check-in with yourself

Are you willing to ask yourself “how am I doing?” every now and then? Is it ok to let your subconscious know you are there for you? Being You means you know you are there for yourself, it means that you do what you say and say what you do. It means increasing #awareness of whatever goes on within and without. It means starting a brand new, beautiful, functional and life long relationship with yourself.

With love and laughter,

Francesca xo